By Kakie Fitzsimmons, Vice President and founding partner, Farmer’s Hat Productions co-author Bur Bur and Friends book series
I recall when my son had his first bike with training wheels. His initial attempt at using it was on a beautiful day for February in Minnesota.. It took about 20 minutes for him to figure out how to use the pedals.
He was getting very discouraged and frustrated “OH – I cant do this!” he would yell. I kept saying calmly, “Yes, you can do this, you can do it, and you just have to keep trying. Do you remember what perseverance means?”
He responded, “Yes, when you keep on keeping on, even when it is hard.” He was gripping the handles and ducking his head down towards them with concentration. Pretty soon he was saying over and over with determination, “I can do it, I can do it, I can do it.” Then it turned louder, “MOMMY! I’m doing it! I CAN, I AM doing this!”
There I was, reveling in the experience, cheering him on, knowing it was HIS moment. If there was ever a time to be fully present in that short time span and experience the joy in it, this was it. I was running behind him as he got it and the only way I can explain it was that my heart was truly smiling along with the ear-to-ear smiles on both of our faces. I had my hands high in the air and I was cheering, “Yaay!! I just KNEW you would do it Isaiah! I am so proud of you, you have perseverance.” To which he proudly said while nodding his head; “Yep, I have perseverance! I did it all myself!” He sure did. He was riding forward from being a preschooler to a boy.
As I reflect back on it, I realize that the experience was a symbol of him coming into his own independence and my growth as a parent in allowing that to happen naturally while celebrating it. Seeing his confidence blossom in those 20 minutes was an absolutely joyful, priceless experience.
I hope this blog offers other moms the opportunity to share their special stories and thoughts on the preschool years and the balancing act of enjoying their achievements, but having to let go as they develop and grow!

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