For Local BlogSoccer night – Is this schedule chaos, or comedy? One mom shares her story……
By Kakie Fitzsimmons, Vice President and founding partner, Farmer’s Hat Productions co-author Bur Bur and Friends book series
When we chose to become authors of Bur Bur and Friends, multicultural children’s books that educate kids about sports, outdoor exploration and active play, it did not occur to us that it would change how we watch these activities.
Now, I find myself taking mental notes and paying closer attention as I watch how the kids play together. It is exciting to see them catching on as they learn more about the sport and teamwork. It has become more intriguing to watch the different ways a coach interacts with the kids and encourages their growth.
As parents, we wander around trying to figure out the whole balancing act thing. How do we define balance? What is it supposed to look like? Is there any one right way? Something happened to me the other night that I think many of you can relate to if your kids are in sports… I felt compelled to share it. Below is an hour and ten minutes in the life of a soccer mom:
5:00 Pick up my son from school. He dawdles behind me as I charge quickly to the car because I know we are on a tight schedule today. “Hurry up honey,” I say with encouragement. He gets in the car as I continue: “Close the door please” I proceed to buckle him in and take off in a flash.
5:10 Arrive home to get dressed for soccer. Tears – can’t find his shin guards or soccer shorts. (he is hungry and about to have a meltdown.) Begin searching the entire house frantically because I know if we don’t get food quick he will fall apart more.
5:15 Finally – Found what we need. Now he needs help putting his socks and gear on so I sit on the floor to comply.
5:24 Out the door for the 6:00 game, but we have to go to a McD’s for a meal.
5:35 My phone rings, it’s one of my business partners. We think it is going to be one of those quick discussions. (yeah – right)
5:37 While holding the phone with my left hand, I tell my phone call to hold on, place the order while trying to reach in my purse to find my credit card with the other hand. (The ultimate multi-task)
5:42 Pull up to the first window after still searching for the card. Finally find it and hand it to the attendant. (still talking)
5:43 Pull up to the second window and gather the drinks and food
5:48 Pull away from the drive-through, still chatting with my ear holding the phone to my right shoulder. “Hold on.” I pass the Happy Meal back to him while driving. I then proceed to continue the phone conversation.
5:51 Very loud wailing from the back seat with tears, while I am on the phone. “I don’t have any ketchup for my fries!” DRAMA!
5:53 Tell phone call I need to go and my mind is reeling like crazy trying to balance being on time for the game, being a business owner who has a full time job outside of my business, writer, single mom, soccer mom, etc.
5:57 Arrive to the field.
6:00 Open my trunk, pull out my fold-up chair, carrying my purse, book bag, his soccer ball, bottle of water and my drink from the fast food place. Then try to figure out which field we are on. Of course, no one is there yet, even though it starts at 6:00.
6:05 Finally coach shows up and points us in the right direction.
6:10 FINALLY – I get to sit down and breathe!!!
Is this schedule chaos or comedy? Let me know what you think or if you have similar experiences or perspective that you’d like to share!
I know there is going to be a day when I will miss moments (or hours) of chaos that some of this brings. I know there will be times I will look back and laugh hysterically. It is fun to see him running around the field and suddenly I get a moment and remember, this is what it is all really about. Sometimes I cheer on the kids on the other team so he can see me demonstrating good sportsmanship. It is about being there for him, encouraging his participation and routing for him the whole time. I am the one person in his life that will always be in his corner and that is all that matters. I hope he remembers it someday and smiles too.
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August 15th, 2007 at 8:49 am
Definately comedy! Been there, done that. When I plop down after a whirlwind of “duties”, I feel empowered that God has given me exactly what I can handle. Love the story-it’s good to know other parents experience the same things.
August 16th, 2007 at 5:11 am
You’re lucky you get to show up at 6pm for a 6pm game! On our teams you need to be there about an hour early to warm up.
Sounds like a typical everyday schedule to me.
May 29th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
Lots of comedy here but definitely displays the real life of being a mom. Thanks for sharing.
December 7th, 2009 at 3:09 pm
That is just nuts! I thought my schedule was crazy. Don’t you think you should slow down a little? I rarely ever take my kids out to get fast food for dinner. I make sure I have time in the evenings to cook them a healthy meal. Sometimes moms get so busy and they don’t realize that they are spreading themselves way too thin. If you are busy like that every day you could be harming your health and your children’s. Stress can take it’s toll on your body and lead to all kinds of health problems. I hope your schedule slows down and you are able to take the time to take care of yourself and your kids.
December 20th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Hi Cascia, your question is a good one. I think we all have times we need to slow down a little. Balance is a funny thing because it is a moving scale and we get to define what that means for each of us. JoAnne and I began writing the Bur Bur and Friends children’s books with the idea that we want to encourage kids and families to get active together. We know that raising healthy kids begins in the home and early childhood education is the key to living healthy. I wrote the article because I am sure there are many parents who can identify with a day like that once in a while. For me, laughter is a good way to take stress off of my shoulders. Thank you for joining in our conversation and reading our blog.